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Our culture has taken for granted for far too long what human nature, experience, common sense, and God’s wise design all confirm: the difference between a man and a woman matters, and the difference between a mom and a dad matters. While the culture has failed in many ways to be marriage-strengthening, this is no reason to give up. Now is the time to strengthen marriage, not redefine it.

USCCB, June 16, 2013
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The class covers a lot of useful material, including communication, money management, having kids, and the sacramental nature of marriage. We learned a lot about talking to each other and building our friendship through easily memorable lessons. For example – one of the class exercises is to hold a "Transformed in Love" magnet while talking to your future spouse, and handing the magnet to your partner when it’s his or her turn to speak. The magnet is now a nice decoration on our fridge, but the lesson of listening to your spouse rather than interrupting has stayed with us during our marriage. We'd both recommend this for couples of any faith who are getting married, since it covers Catholic teachings but also offers useful techniques for anyone seeking to join in marriage and build a healthy, strong lifelong relationship.

Joe and Kath Gallagher of Boston, MA, married 2 years

This program was a great experience for the both of us and we find that we have continued to utilize a lot of the tools we were given in our newly married life including ongoing discussion of each others' expectations and collaboration on household maintenance and financial responsibilities. Our biggest takeaways were provided to us by the older married couples who shared their own relationship challenges and who had several years of wisdom and experience to share. They showed us how we should always strive to communicate with each other in a way that is loving and respectful; even if there are issues that can't be resolved easily in a few discussions. This program, we feel, was the most honest approach in providing engaged couples to have the necessary guidance, with the help and grace of God, to develop a lifetime plan for loving communication and problem solving for years to come.

Julie Williams and Thomas Whalen of Townsend, MA married 6 months

Transformed in Love was undoubtedly one of the best things we did during our engagement. We came into the program looking to learn more about each other and the Catholic Church’s teachings on marriage, and we came out of the program enriched, enlightened, and totally excited to be husband and wife. The beauty of Transformed in Love is that it centers on Church teaching, which allowed us to more fully understand the truth about sacramental marriage. In that context, we learned how to utilize practical tools to build a strong foundation for our marriage and our future family.

Katie Gohn and Benjy Sung of Waltham, MA, engaged to be married at St. Michael Parish in North Andover, MA.

We felt that the Transformed in Love marriage preparation program was a great experience. The sessions taught us a lot about ourselves, each other, our faith, and our relationship by bringing up topics we may not have otherwise thought about or discussed. We enjoyed being able to discuss topics on our own while also having married couples to give input and advice. We would recommend this to program to any engaged couple.

Leanne Dykens and Daniel Graham of Burlington, MA, engaged to be married at St. Margaret Parish.

Transformed in Love far exceeded our expectations. It helped us to understand ourselves and each other better, to communicate better, and to anticipate issues we will have to face in our marriage. It did all this in a deeply faith-filled way that clarified the meaning of marriage as a sacrament. We would recommend Transformed in Love without hesitation to all engaged couples.

Michael Demkowicz and Carmen Lara of Massachusetts, engaged to be married in Concord, North Carolina.

A truly excellent and comprehensive program that teaches couples how to start their lives together and stay together...covers topics such as differing personalities, wedding planning, finances, parenting, in-laws, sexuality and prayer. We recommend this program to every couple preparing for marriage!

Michael and Whitney Pencina, Development Committee members, Chapel Hill, NC

Transformed in Love is the premier resource for those who take seriously the imperative to bring marriage preparation to the next level. A comprehensive combination of the latest developments in understanding and communicating foundational human formation along with intelligent and attractive catechesis of the Catholic faith.

David and Mary Brennan, Archdiocesan Marriage Preparation Committee and Transformed in Love Team Members at St. Brendan’s Parish in Bellingham, MA.

Transformed in Love engages minds as well as hearts, helping couples come to a deeper understanding of love and marriage, sexuality that is self-giving and generous, and the virtues necessary for a happy, lifelong marriage. Filled with practical tools, it encourages and inspires couples to build a strong healthy life together.

David and Mary Brennan, Archdiocesan Marriage Preparation Committee and Transformed in Love Team Members at St. Brendan’s Parish in Bellingham, MA.

As always, God will not be outdone in generosity. Joining the team to create the Transformed in Love marriage prep program seemed like a good way to support the Church and RCAB, but it has also strengthened and deepened our relationship in the process, so that we too were transformed in love. This program introduces the couples to much more than the sacramentality of marriage. Tools and life skills are taught which are applicable in all areas, including work situations, children, friends and extended family. God has a wonderful plan for each of us to attain happiness. Transformed in Love is instrumental in explaining and facilitating the vocation of marriage and our personal plan for salvation within the greater Divine Plan.

Christopher and Eileen Wood, Parishioners St. William Parish, Tewksbury, Married 25+ years, Development team and presenters in first 12 pilot programs and continuing to serve

Most Marriage Preps offer training in practical skills to maintain a marriage. Transformed in Love presents these valuable skills, but it's aim is higher—transformation, not simply maintenance. The program introduces couples to the promises God makes to us through His sacrament of marriage, and to the grace he offers as we help each other to grow in holiness.

Therese and Pete Braudis, Team Members for 8 programs, Groton, MA, married 44+ years

The human and theological richness of this marriage-preparation program is immense. We found it to be a great joy to serve on the committee, to present this revolutionary program and see the love of engaged couples growing within the ever-greater ambit of the Catholic faith.

Drs. Angela and David Franks, Theological Institute for the New Evangelization at Saint John’s Seminary, married 15 years.

I am proud to be a part of Transformed in Love. For me the strongest aspect of the program is exactly what is missing from other programs I have worked with and that is its focus on Catholic Marriage. What is the Catholic theology behind Marriage? What does it mean to have a Sacramental Marriage? How is God fully part of an Interfaith Marriage? Why does the Church advocate Natural Family Planning? Along with more typical and important Marriage prep subjects such as communication and finances, this program is unashamed to profess the truth of what we are about.

Rev. Mark O’Connell, JCD, Judicial Vicar, Archdiocese of Boston

This program lets engaged couples be aware that marriage is not about a fairy tale. It is a vocation journey leading to eternal life! In our narcissistic society, the true and natural meaning of marriage as a vocation is obviously lost. This program boldly reinforces a deeper and straightforward understanding of what it takes to have a strong, solid, holistic marriage. It also enlightens engaged couples to see the eternal value of a sacrificial and unconditional love, known as agape love, making their marriage a part of their vocation journey on earth. With an understanding of this agape love, engaged couples will have the strength they need to face trials and tribulations in their married life. This program is awesome!

Rev. Shawn P. Carey, Director of the Deaf Apostolate, Archdiocese of Boston Transformed in Love Chaplain, served in three teams.

As a priest who has participated in the "Transformed In Love" program several times (three times at this writing), I fully endorse this wonderful endeavor. I think that it really "brings to life" the Marriage Preparation experience for our couples. The wide variety of topics covered, from Natural Family Planning (NFP) to Communications to Living a Sacramental Life, offer the couples of today a frank, open and honest look at what it means to living a Sacramental Marriage in the world today. As a priest, I especially like the "Teaching Mass". Time and time again, the comments come back from our couples that the Teaching Mass was one of the "highlights" of their time spent with us. I have found that this "tool" translates well into general parish ministry, and have used the Teaching Mass with other groups such as RCIA and our Confirmation program. I cannot recommend highly enough the "Transformed In Love" Program - it is a great benefit not only to our young couples preparing for Marriage, but for our Church as well.

Fr. Paul Ring, Pastor, Our Lady of Grace Parish in Pepperell, MA

In today’s parishes people tend to marry older and one hopes that the level of maturity is greater. What I have found is that so many things affect how they view marriage and love and commitment, from the romantic to the pragmatic, that there is little time spent really sorting out these influences in a quiet and responsive atmosphere. Transformed in Love gives them such a setting supported by professionals and most importantly, people who are living out their commitment. It also allows them to hear what the Church really has to say about love, marriage and commitment in our present time. If there is any time they will listen to the gentle yet strong call of the Gospel to enter into a committed love relationship it is as they prepare for a wonderful yet challenging time. The program has much to offer in its wisdom, knowledge and most of all its reason for being, the love we have for our people.

Rev. Edmond Derosier, Pastor, St. Anthony of Padua, Shirley

This program explains the natural reality of marriage before addressing what marriage is in the Church. Before it addresses the reality of marriage as a sacrament it addresses the nature of God, salvation history, and the dynamic Christian life. Being theocentric, this program features a teaching Mass which does more than tell a couple to pray, it teaches them how to pray, and to great effect in the couples participating thus far. We need help addressing couples who are not growing up in a culture that forms them in the faith, purity, and prayer. With this program, developed by a cross section of experts and rooted in natural law teachings and good for adult faith formation results for happy marriage are made real.

Rev. Jeremy St. Martin of St. John the Evangelist in Townsend, MA; Developing Committee and Team Member
REVIEW OF “TRANSFORMED IN LOVE: Building Your Catholic Marriage” for the Family Life Office, Archdiocese of Edmonton Alberta
By Paul S. Quist (MDiv, STL – Marriage and Family Pontifical Lateran University, Rome)

This resource has impressed me. I have been exposed to many marriage preparation programs through my studies at the John Paul II Institute, my three years serving as Associate director of the office of Marriage and Family at the Archdiocese of Edmonton and now three years serving as a director of marriage and family ministries at Holy Trinity Catholic Church, Spruce Grove. This is by far the best resource which I have seen for this crucial task of formation.


Here are a few points which make this a strong program:

1. Christocentric formation – evangelization of the couple is primary
2. Sacramental emphasis – clarifies what a sacrament is, how marriage is a sacrament and how this is the heart of marriage and the source of great strength, health and hope for the relationship
3. Breaks down the jobs needed (team leader, priest, small group facilitator, registration coordinator, hospitality coordinator, prayer partner coordinator, etc. and what each position entails)
4. Teaches the “why?” and the context for natural family planning
5. Offers format options ( e.g. four sessions, six sessions, two day program, weekend retreat program) and gives details on how to set up the program in each of those options
6. The Catholic Faith isn’t an add-on, but integral to the entire program
7. Produced by a large team of people with expertise in marriage and theology
8. Well organized and attractively published
9. Practical, providing couples with activities that will help them grow in knowledge of self and their fiancé
10. Faithfully and sensitively addresses key issues (Communication, Expectations, What is Love, What is Marriage, What is Sacramental Marriage, The Rite of Marriage, Finances, Nurturing Faith, What is the Mass, Marital Sexuality)


Coming with a Nihil Obstat and an Imprimature, this program is thoroughly and reliably Catholic and yet, accessible to people with little religious formation. In fact, couples who, with a good will, take this course will not only acquire knowledge and skills that will aid them in having a successful marriage, but they will grow to understand that their marriage is the very means by which God is perfecting them in love and preparing them for eternity. 

“Transformed in Love: Building Your Catholic Marriage” comes from the archdiocese of Boston and is published by Pauline Books and Media.

Marriage preparation in today’s morally relativistic culture is a challenging endeavor. This is why Transformed in Love: Building Your Catholic Marriage is such an incredibly valuable gift to the Church as a resource for parishes that truly want to prepare couples to receive a sacrament. This comprehensive and transformative program covers everything from communication and prayer life to finances and sex. Transformed in Love lays a solid foundation for a lifetime commitment of love, fidelity, and faithfulness.

Deacon Harold Burke-Sivers, EWTN Series Host, Made in His Image: Family Life Today, Author, The Mass in Sacred Scripture

“Transformed in Love provides a contemporary, comprehensive and thoroughly Catholic approach to marriage preparation that will greatly assist couples in understanding and embracing the many dimensions of their vocation. A particular strength of the program is the way in which it considers important issues like communication, finances and sexuality in the broader and deeper context of virtue, liturgy and spirituality. Transformed in Love has the potential to help engaged couples lay a foundation that will last a lifetime.”

Most Reverend Kevin C. Rhoades, Bishop of Fort Wayne-South Bend, Chair, USCCB Committee on Laity, Marriage, Family Life, and Youth

Transformed in Love is an extraordinary resource for the Church. It blends an understanding of the Catholic sacrament of marriage, the insights of John Paul II's Theology of the Body and the most recent social science research on marriage and relationships into what can only be described as an impressive system of marriage preparation. The involvement of married couples to offer their experiences, and the opportunity for these "teachers" of marriage to deepen their own relationship is a further benefit. It is clear that the authors intend to invite engaged couples into a discussion between themselves and with a community that cares about the success of their relationship.

To be more specific, I liked that the authors were very knowledgeable in the theology and research on marriage and that they were able to translate that content in everyday language. The exercises were well thought out, and the supporting materials should assist marriage preparation teams to offer a professional level program that is faithful to Church teaching, in a language that should resonate with the engaged couples.

Brian Kane, PhD, Chair of Marriage and Family Studies at DeSales University
After attending the Transformed in Love Program.

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